I have to remind myself that some ... yikes too many for my liking, actually believe firmly in it and ones belief is powerful thus the placebo effect !
I know all about the power of beliefs after been brought up in a Catholic Irish culture. When I was a child I picked up the belief that I was sinful, unworthy, not good enough and never getting to heaven unless I went to confessions regularly to repent for my sins. I learnt to judge myself so harshly within my own mind. The voice of my inner critic is still something I am working with to tame, soften and become more gentle and loving toward my own tender heart.
My favourite analogy of why people have such different thoughts and perspectives currently about what is true and false in the world is we are tuning in and listening to different radio stations ( With different frequency and perspectives and thus perceptions / beliefs on life ). Read more about this topic in my Blog here " We only regret the chances not taken ". LINK HERE.
It is tempting to go listen to some mainstream media channels ( MSM ) but frankly when I do, I find it so non-inspiring, low vibes and so blah blah talking heads and mouths pieces for multi billion ~ trillion dollar corporations whom have there own both fascinating and disturbing vision for earths future and humanity. In short it simply does not resonate with my inner being and personal experiences of what uplifts us with vibrant health and well-being.
We become what we think and fill our heads and bellies with. So discernment is key in these times to be aware of what is happening and yet not get too caught up in it that it effects one in a non helpful disempowering way.
The extend of the Trauma and DisTrust of ones natural innate SELF and how this gets translated to how one views and relates to their bodies.
We got to keep our sense of humour with all of this. When we laugh we are out of the stress response and our hearts are open and it allows a good oxygen supply and exchange to the cells. That is definitely what I love about my cultural upbringing. Irish people have a great sense of silly daft humour to keep the laughter and lightness going ( the 'craic' as it is called in Ireland ) . I really do believe nowadays that this is what got our Irish ancestry through a very harsh history at times and the introduction of a harsher version of the Roman Catholic Religion that infiltrated the land and subdued the people away from their natural abundant connection with the land, the fairies, the pagan ways of been attuned with the elements in more Celtic times.
Least to say it is beyond bizarre for us wellness joyful folk and natural aligned healers ~ harmoniser of body mind soul choosing vibrant living to witness this source of what we perceive as an induced and for some more prolonged trauma on the body-mind-emotions-spiritual connection.
Definition of trauma Resource LINK.
1a: an injury (such as a wound) to living tissue caused by an extrinsic agent
b: a disordered psychic or behavioural state resulting from severe mental or emotional stress or physical injury
c: an emotional upset
To gain more insights and compassion for childhood Trauma and how that creates the dysfunctions within society, please take the time and make a donation towards watching the movie documentary. LINK HERE or / & listen to this Ted Talk. LINK HERE
I asked a guy in the cafe in Kaikoura the other day how he was finding his most updated one. You know the one that looks like a penguin beak . He said he was finding his breathing more restricted and harder to breath because it was fitted more securely on the face around his mouth and nose . I left him with this statement as a joke in all seriousness ‘ what are they trying to do to us ( humanity ) trying to either turn us into penguins or robots. He laughed and I smiled and walked away.
So F__ked up I say !
The benefits to healing your dysfunctional upbringing: Stories from a wonderful dysfunctional childhood which would become my greatest teacher of awareness, healing, discernment and authenticity once healed.
I just happened to get a head start on all of this from a young age that helped shape whom I am today and the journey taken to get to here to know what I know deeply regardless of what others think or say.
I grew up in a very dysfunctional way with both parents on a concoctions of medications for years. My younger brother once stated " we were not brought up, we were dragged up". Wow I thought , is that true as I still believed we had it pretty good compared to how I knew it could be after living in 2 children's homes from age 3yr - 6yrs.
Both my parents were on many different kinds of medications and some of these were for the side effects of other meds. A few years ago before my father died, I read out to him on one of my visits, the small print that came with his medications, such small print that even if he wanted too he would not be able to read it. It listed the side effects of the medication. He stated after I completed reading out loud to him this list of side effects to his meds " Shur they are all the reasons I am taking them in the first place ". Thankfully, as cranky and angry and harsh speaking as my father could be at times, he still had a endearing sense of humour.
My Mum died 30yrs ago when I was 14yrs old when the meds she was given in a locked up psyche ward did not mix well together which brought on a sudden heart attack or so the autopsy revealed. When the lawyer finally accessed her medical files from the hospital, the lawyer told my father that part of them seemed to be missing. Thus the family never took this further.
Personally I did not want to get involved in a Court battle of whom and what was at cause of my mothers death. I knew in my heart I needed to heal myself so I did not head down the path she did that landed her in the mental hospital shortly after I was born with postnatal depression. A depression that went from bad to worse with the only solution offered been different types of medications and electro shock treatments. Back then, there was no readily available services to support and educate on the needs for quality nutrition for the brain and nervous system, especially when a person is under excessive stress ( carrying and given birth to a baby ) and the stress of fearful negative thinking and living in an environment that felt unstable and unloving.
What creates fearful thinking ? Well at the core it is feeling unsafe, unprotected, unsupported, incapable, disconnected, confused, distrust, rejected and unloved. ( i.e past & present unresolved traumas ) .
So witnessing much at a young age gave me the awareness and determination that I needed to find a better way to support my well-being and personal empowerment in life if I wanted to live a more happy joyful healed existence. I knew somehow that I would need to discover how to heal what ailed both my parents physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Thus, has been my journey the latter 20yrs, beginning with attending my 1st Hot Yoga class when I was 21 or 22yrs. Later it was really my travels to India and other places that really opened my mind and heart to the possibilities with meditations, healing modalities and been introduced to the traditional Hatha Yoga styles and living more authentically from your spiritual nature daily.
When I was 27yrs old I had gone to my allopathic Doctor in Jersey, located in the Channel Island off the U.K.. He was such a lovely Doctor and tried to do his best for me and had put me on a second round of antibiotics. Half way through taking them, I had intense pain in my gut and my intuition was strong that the medication was not working for me and I needed to find something else asap. That was the day I booked my 1st alternative practitioner appointment and invested 50 U.K. pounds into my healing. That was a big deal for me as I grew up on a free medical card in Ireland and was not used of paying money to invest in my health. My culture has taught me that we kept that for alcohol in Ireland LOL. That was a real turning point on my empowering healing journey and I have never looked back and have had no need for taking medications in 17yrs. I even replaced the paracetamol tabs I use to take on the 1st and 2 days of getting my menstrual cycle with practicing meditations. It is incredible to feel how meditations and releasing resistance to the flow of life and the flow of our natural cycles can release the intense discomfort / pain / cramps and reset the body-mind to well-being and ease. Basically I learned to replace the resistance I had with more and more acceptance each month with the help of meditations. To our bodies and cells which are responding to every thought and felling we have this is profound and thus the miracle of healing is found.
Over the years I also learnt to invest my money and resources of time, energy and commitment into the discovery of my self knowledge with trainings, self care practices and exploring natural healing modalities and approaches for body, mind, spirit and emotions. Through that, like many other passionate wellness peeps with fascinating stories of personal transformations, I ended up having invaluable experiences and resources to share with others and created my wellness biz in 2010 with launching Mountain View Massage day spa, 2015 Vibrant Living Retreat with hubby and 2017 Vibrant Wellness Academy to train and certified my own students in Holistic Intuitive Massage. ( LINK HERE )
Thus why I am so passionate about Self Care ... no more self sacrifice peeps !!! You and those you love are worthy of empowered wellness and living well. " You can't give what you ain't got " ! ! ! Care for self so you can refill your cup to full and overflowing and naturally extend this caring and love to others. That is how is really works in a sustainable world. Resentments, bitterness and regrets all add to the dis-eases in a body. These emotions reflect where a person has not believed they have had the right or self worth to care for themselves or be cared for and follow their own hearts and passions and joy.
WHAT IS REQUIRED TO TRULY HEAL AND WHY MANY WON'T CHOOSE THIS ?
You need to reclaim radical self responsibility for your life and lay down the victim, shame and blame games for self and others. Thus why many will not choose that path as it does take dedication, daily focus, making life changes, a willingness to forgive the past and having a strong desire to empower yourself with sustainable health and trust in a friendly universe, friendly earth, friendly humanity and most important of all a friendly body that you live in that houses your spirit on earth.
On this planet for many it can feel like going against the grain of family and friends if you really put your own needs first, especially if you have lived your entire life putting everyone else first and neglecting your own sacred self. Thus is it any wonder that part of your psyche is enraged which may express in sudden outburst of anger, sadness and a feeling of being lost.
It does take some courage, a deeper desire for change and building a healthy self worth. Sometimes it is actually concerns for how other people will respond to you that troubles you most if you actually put yourself first. You may fear letting people down or you may also be greatly attached to having people relay on you and your skills that you don't want to give that role up and focus more on your own needs. In this case it is developing a greater self value and self worth that is required to commit to self care and more self love.
Each to there own of what one chooses ! As we advance in our Soul learning on earth and resolve our own issues and heal the unhealed so we feel more whole. We develop a deeper compassion for self and others. We understand that everyone is on a unique soul journey of their own choosing and whom are we to judge another. This is also a reflection that we have released and resolved our own inner judgements and separations with our own self and psyches.
In short there really is no right or wrong choices. However there is choices that creates very different kind of experiences.
Each is on a individual journey and a larger collective humanity one. The fork on the road just so happens to be more apparent these days to two very unique looking types of earthly human experiences that are available to each one to choose. One is moving towards living in greater SOUL BODY MIND embodied harmony with the natural world and our own inner nature. The other is moving away from the natural world, body awareness and into a more ungrounded / disconnected from the earth and digitised synthetic version of reality.
Personally I am aligned to creating technology that harmonises with our true human nature and enhances that in alignment with the recognition that we are SOUL incarnated beings on earth. That life on earth is gift to celebrate and enjoy and expand ourselves through. Not something to take for granted, make a burden of, destroy, take advantage of its resources for more profit and control or to simply turn our backs on from sheer apathy through lack of faith, connection, love and an addiction to suffering through lack of self worth and self knowledge.
It has been wowing over the latter 2 years to witness the power of the fear porn openly displayed around most areas of NZ.
Then there is those special places where people have had enough and stopped wearing or enforcing them on others.
Woohoo for those beginning to super seed the fear and distortions and reclaim self dignity again and choose living in the here and now more FULLY ALIVE.
The greatest fear people are running from and trying to escape is death, change and transformations.
For any of us could die tomorrow but why put yourself on a torture table getting there. Is it worth it really !!!!
You can die suffering all the way to the grave or the crematorium as many would have you believe is perfectly normal to accept or you can die happy and satisfied with your life as you found the courage to face your fears, , humble your ego and choose to trust more in your true self ( heart -soul nature ) and thus have no regrets.
FORGIVING THE UNFORGIVABLE ~ SPEAKING THE UNSPOKEN TAKES COURAGE & A SURRENDERING TO THE HEART.
Forgive them Father ~ Mother ~ God ~ Earth ~ Nature for they know not what they do when they turn there backs on you and hand their immense power over to a different kinda of narcissist altered egoic power claiming itself as the one source of truth.
" What you resist, will persist " ... I am so aware of the truth of this statement. Life these days is a delicate balancing of been so fully aware of what is a NO for my heart and what is a YES and then focusing on the YES to the best of my ability while been attentive to my continuous healing~harmonising journey of body-mind-soul moving through a huge collective AWAKENING and shift of
consciousness on earth.
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" Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you respond " ... and wow has life ever been gifting up the goods and challenges on managing those responses.
I/ We / YOU learn so much about ourself and each other by becoming aware of how I / WE / YOU react unconsciously and respond more consciously to circumstances and events etc
Divine Blessings upon ALL and please please for the love of GOD and all that is GOODNESS don't lose your sense of humour over these times.
Compassionate Joyful Loving Blessings on all paths walked on earth.
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